It’s not easy to be a good parent. Unfortunately the times have changed and the last century “I’ll put my life on hold for the next 18 years while my kids grow up” does not work anymore. The authoritative “do as I say” attitude of older generations is gone too. Sometime ago, starting with the 1960s and the wave of VL6 way of thinking has rebelled against the rigid authority of the yesteryear.
Everything has changed in our world and that’s not necessarily bad. It’s just a matter or total reorganization of time management, how you understand the “being” that is your child and navigate very carefully that fine line between teaching them, taking care of their safety and well being and yet respecting their needs, values, motivations…plus all the other stuff that goes on which can create problems.
How do you protect them but not being overly protective, how do you what works well VS wat is “fun” but doesn’t especially in long term, and so on.
As I said, it requires a lot of reorganization of life in general especially time and energy. Coming back to the same issues. Time and energy used in such a way that it produce the best for everyone and everything involved including you, the parent.
Yeah, if kids don’t learn VL4 rules and regulations, eventually they’ll get themselves in trouble.
It is in the nature – as you well said – of children to want to experiment with everything, but they need the structure of the positive side of VL4. Otherwise when they grow up they wil have to deal with that on their own, and VL4 will not be complete for them and they cannot move on further – at least not easily and without complications.
