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Hello all.
I’d like to share a success story with you all – maybe it can help some of you too.
A woman come to me recently asking could I remove a phobia, so I said sure. She told me her six year old son was terrified of dogs, and it was getting worse quickly, to the point he had even run out into the road to get away from them, which is obviously dangerous. She had spoken with him and explained I might be able to help and he agreed and wanted to do something with me. I suggested meeting twice. Once so he could get used to me, and to gather information, and another session to do the intervention.
I had not worked with someone that young before, but his mum was very supportive, the child was willing, and I’ve experienced other successful interventions that surprised me, so I was prepared enough to go do it.
First session went well. I built lots of rapport. We talked about the last time it happened (on the previous day) and I built up an idea of the strategy etc. I did find it really challenging at times to keep the energy there with him and to keep him interested and invested in the process. I made it like a game of imagination, we had fun, and at the end of the session I ran him through the fast phobia cure. We had arranged to borrow the soft dog from next door afterwards, but it was late, so we agreed to finish the next day as previously planned. I was a little disappointed I didn’t get to test it out.
I checked in with Adriana, because I wasn’t sure about using TLT as he was so young, and I wasn’t sure he would understand the concept of root cause. I got great advice, as long as I can get feedback, so I can tell he’s following my instructions, then it’s OK. TLT had been successfully done with a three year old so I should be fine. She also suggested Logical Levels to scramble strategy, and the Allergy Cure. That last bit was a surprise to me but I could see how it could be adapted to work in this situation. I felt more confident.
The next day I told him we were going to do some magic today, to help with the fact he had given up being scared of dogs. We made magic circles of empowerment to stand in where he couldn’t be scared (anchoring). We did the Allergy Cure from MP Manual, slightly adapted. To be honest his ability to hallucinate clearly and be extremely flexible with his reality was incredible. For example he demonstrated how the plexiglas was 3cm further away than I had suggested, and placed something on the floor so I could see it better! As we completed the task a dog walked by the window outside and he shouted “I’m not scared of THAT dog” and pointed. He said it again. We high-fived and made a fuss about it, while his mum took a sharp intake of breath in pure surprise.
We used a magic carpet ride to do TLT, to let go of all the fear, which it turns out was surprisingly easy to do. The only bit which took him a minute to get his head round was the new learnings but he came up with some, and followed all the instructions beautifully. At the end he couldn’t find the scared feeling when he thought about dogs, or recent incidents. He declared that he wasn’t scared of dogs anymore! Cue for mum’s tears here as the kid gave me a big hug for helping him and said thanks.
Next day I received several photos of him playing with various dogs in the park. His mum said she was crying with joy while taking the photos. This six year old went from running onto busy roads a few times trying to get away from dogs, to this. Mum is grateful, the kid is chuffed with himself, and said he might even want a dog himself in future. Next day there was another text – “You won’t believe this we’re back in the park looking for dogs to play with. He’s played with three and one of them was lively and loud”.
Job done. I’m very proud for him.
I feel like a whole new area of my learning has opened up to me through this experience, which I can now take the time to explore thoroughly. I’ve learned a new way of applying myself and my skills. I’m thinking differently and I like the difference. And I remembered how much more flexible I used to be and regained that by working with him. Win win.
I would have never thought of the Allergy Cure use for this before, but now it’s making me reassess other interventions in the light of this new information, and I feel a real growth coming from within it.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, I hope you found the information useful,
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Marc, this is exceptional. As I said to you, you have given a child his life back. Imagine how this child would have grown up being terrified of dogs all his life. This could have marked him in more ways than we can comprehend and in more than one single area of life. So proud of you! Now ask yourself, what is that worth to his parents and to the child? And the answer is – Everything!!!
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What a beautiful story Marc! Thank you for sharing your success. It’s amazing the profound difference these tools can make in someone’s life… and especially the dramatic change it made in this 6yr old’s life. Stephane and I love working with kids and find it quite fun and easy (as they have less programming!) Excellent job… keep it up!!
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Marc, this is a great story – and very much in line with the kind of things that you always wanted to do in your life… that is, helping people…
Am really proud of you – you have a wealth of knowledge that you have carried with you for many years. I remember our talks and chats in and around vidchats ever since 2012; and then later you arrived in Sydney and you took all the courses you did… and then we flew high… and now YOU, my friend, are flying so high that you inspire others to fly as well.
Tip my hat to you, Sir – here is the knowledge put into action. Wish others will follow your tracks – or at very least be inspired by your story.
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Hi Marc, Thanks for sharing this incredible story with us all!
I love hearing stories of profound change like this especially with kids and more importantly because you had the necessary thinking to “Think outside the box” and creatively apply the techniques we have been taught by Dr’s Adriana & Tad James.
This little boy was certainly flexible in his behavior but was obviously apart of your projection!
Law of Requisite Variety at its finest you were in abundance in terms of tools available to you and the correct thinking to apply them! Well done and well done to the little boy who can now enjoy the joys of playing with dogs. Very Cool – You have me feeling inspired this morning mate.
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Congratulations, Marc! Looks like you completely transformed the boy from having a “dog phobia” into having a “dog addiction” :))) He is a roll over in your therapy 🙂
Now, jokes aside, I believe working with kids is so much rewording and really fun and easy to do as their imagination is quick, they don’t rationalize the process too much and they just follow your instructions once you build good rapport with them!I recently worked with a girl who had clown phobia and logical levels of therapy helped solve the problem faster than I thought. Also hypnoses works great with children; I often do it with my kids, giving them a relaxation induction and then positive suggestions. Last weekend for ex I gave my son suggestions such as he would be great in the football match he had the next day, that he would score at least 1 goal and that’s exactly what happened: he scored actually 3 times and played his best match ever.
Kids are amazing to work with and we only have to encourage them to keep the magic alive! -
Thanks for the beautiful comments you all made, it touched my heart. I’ve already had a number of people approach me about possible work with children/schools/youth organisations – that mum is well connected and she’s a walking advert. Her son by the way is insisting on going to the park everyday to play with more dogs!
One of the things that surprised me is how much less programming he had, like Shalee said. As a result he was sort of ‘right here’ with me in his communications, which made the work relatively easy. The testimonial I got from the mum included this “It was interesting for me and mind-blowing fun for a six year old”. Well it was mind-blowing fun for me too, I can assure you 🙂
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Great Marc. The next project we are going to have is connected with finding your niche. Pay attention to this, and maybe this could be part of your niche…or not. It could be another profit center associate with your niche (this will become clear once the project no.4 is up). But keep it in in mind, and ask mom for further recommendations. This could bring more business to you. Use it.
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Thanks for your comments. Jenny – I was covering bases yes, but not necessarily in case of an underlying physiological reason, but I like your thinking and will definitely consider that possibility in future.
As a small update, the child still insists on going to the park and playing with dogs. And now wants a dog! Oh and they’re not called magic circles any more – apparently they’re now called rainbow circles and they’re stronger! He’s taught his 3 year old sister how to make them.
On Friday I am meeting a mother with a 7 year old daughter with a similar phobia, and had enquiries from a third. Referrals via a satisfied mum! If this ends up my niche I can only say I didn’t see this coming 😉
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Hi Marc, thank you for sharing this, so that we can all learn from it. I love how you have experienced it, the shift within you. Powerful. Cheers
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Thanks Vasso
I have since had remarkable successes with a string of children, including:
Two more dog phobias
An exam phobia
Online gaming addiction
Learning strategies for exam revision (diff person from phobia)
Fears around cancer returning
Fears around knife crimeI’m now working in schools across Liverpool in a pilot which may spread further.
I did not see this niche developing for me!
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It seems that the niche came to you rather than you going after it.
Here is another article showing the possibility of another niche developing because of social media. I will post this also in the Articles of Interest thread.
Maybe people who work in education or have desire to work with youngsters will get ideas on positioning themselves. -
Yes you’re right Adriana. Same with the prisons work.
I work on what I can work on, and simultaneously when unexpected opportunities present themselves, I have enough acuity to be aware of them, and therefore have the choice to engage and find out where they lead me, rather than not notice as they pass by.
I have much to share as i progress through this year and head towards TT in Sydney later on.
Thanks for the article too – I missed that one, fascinating information.
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